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03 @Glam.Halal sept-oct. 2019 lifestyle To be modest in fashion and lifestyle is to wear modest clothing that still gives off a stylish flair and to live moderately. Modesty in being fashionable The workings of modest fashion and keeping things in moderation A ssalamualaikum and a great day to all. It’s a great feeling to be given an oppor- tunity to put my thoughts in writing through this wonderful platform. Fashion is my passion and it is indeed a topic that resonates well with me as a fashion creator and a certified Image Coach. Recalling the moment when I finally decided to venture into fashion, it was in 2016 after much encouragements from my designer friends from Bumiputera Designers Associa- tion, I finally plucked up the courage to do my first showcase on the runway of Malaysia Fashion Week organised by Stylo Mercedes Benz at Matrade. It was an indescribable feeling seeing your creation being showcased on stage and I realized in that moment that if you want to materialise something, you just have to put your thoughts into it and it will lead you to executing it. Alhamdulillah up till now I am enjoying this gift that was entrusted to me by Allah - that is a gift to create, innovate, evolve and do my best in my chosen profession. Evolution is crucial in the fashion world as ‘fashionistas’ now are constantly looking for something new. Trends changes so fast that it is hard to detect what is in and what is not. But one thing for sure, the whole world now is going big on modest fashion. It’s a strong wave that’s creating a big phenomena in the fast-paced industry. What is modest fashion? Just what does ‘modesty’ really means? Some may have vast interpretations of what and how it should be, and perhaps there could even be confusion or misrepresenta- tion of the meaning. There are two ways to translate modesty. My perspective is we can look at it not just in the way we dress but also as a way of life. The word ‘modesty’ comes from the Latin word ‘modestus’ which means ‘keeping within measure’ and sometimes known as ‘demureness’, - it translates a kind of mode of dress and deportment which intends to avoid encouragement of sexual attraction in others. In other words wearing less revealing clothes that exposes the skin. In the dictionary, I came across the translation of modesty. It is ‘the quality of being relatively moderate, limited or in small amount. The quality or state of being unassuming in the estimation of one’s abili- ties. For instance, a typical humbleness of ones success is insisted to share the credit with others in fairness, acceptability, lack of pretensions, lack of vanity and most importantly - all done in moderation. I guess that translates it all. ’ The key word here is moderation. How we dress and live In the way we dress as well as our actions and how much we respect ourselves, the people around us and the sensitivities of the environment we are in. It all comes down to exercising respect and manner- isms at all times to achieve harmony and finesse and not to intimidate others with our presence. But how do we achieve a true under- standing of modesty? Very simple - RESPECT, ADAPT, ACCEPT and do not judge or impose on others. How we dress is totally our own unique style as long as we abide by the principles mentioned above and always be aware of the consequences that By Datin Sharifah Shawati Syed Mohd may arise from our doings and well-being. Choose to be educated and know your boundaries in fashion when you have decided to don the scarf or hijab as it some- how represents formality and undeniably a highly respected journey. As for the non-Muslims on how to exer- cise Modesty is by being aware of the culture of any given situations especially when you’re invited to formal events functions that has the presence of the Royals or get- ting invited to a function at the palace, the best is to exercise Modesty in your choice of dressing and a certain colour not to be used with an intention not to intimidate. Avoid wearing sleeveless dresses, short skirts or attires with slogans or writings. What you need to remember is always bring a long shawl with you, a formal jacket if you’re opting for the modern look and classy elegant formal wear that’s covering your arms, knees and chest area. It’s always a welcoming gesture to have non-Malays wearing the traditional baju kurung or the batik shirt as a way to adapt and creating rapport and harmony. We can be as stylish as we want but we have a duty to ourselves and that is Respect and not to overdo it until it creates doubts and impracticality. Extremism is not encouraged. We can be bold in our stands but must always be flexible in our approach in preserving our dignity and self- respect. See you again next month and stay stylish! Datin Sharifah Shawati Syed Mohd is the Founder of Adamaya Consultancy And Services Sdn Bhd You can see more of her product and services at adamaya.com.my, and her social media at shsha- wati and adamaya.co on Instagram.